1) Adam met Eve through a common friend.
2) Eve thought Adam was the most adorable friend she ever had.
3) Adam and Eve met through a matrimonial website.
4) Adam and Eve worked in same company and hated the same boss.
Well, no matter how every Adam and Eve meet, but their story
never ends at marriage, unlike those in the fairytales or the movies. In
real world, the actual story begins with the marriage.
While few early years in most of the marriages might feel like a
fairytale, the rest might not be the same for all couples. Once the
honeymoon phase begins to fade away, you get to see the 'other side' of
your partner. And it all comes to your notice when:
- Life is not only all about sharing a coffee, but sharing the dinner every night;
- Adam is no more just appreciative of Eve’s gorgeous dresses, but also keeps check on the price tags;
- Eve no longer finds Adam's possessive behaviour charming. It rather irritates her whenever he tries to keep a check on her;
- Honeymoon is over and life gets to dirty dishes, laundry, home loan, car service, to name a few.
But wait, and relax! It has nothing to do with the fault in our
stars. It is how our world is and this is how the marriages are. The two
are so different, yet they cannot live without each other. So, even if
the usual habits of ‘XX’ and ‘XY’ chromosomes tend to bring any problems
in the relationship- a little sugar, a little spice, kiss-of-love, and
pinch of empathy are your tools to fix it all.
Hence, for all those who feel connected to all these situations,
here are some tips on how you can share a genuinely strong bond of love
with your partner forever, despite the behavioural differences created
by the ‘male’ and ‘female’ genes.
#1. ‘Me-time’ and ‘Let Me Be’
Undoubtedly, you are close to your partner, but you need to free
yourself at times and let the other one loosen up too. Be it meeting up
their old friends or just pursuing a hobby, giving sustainable breathing
space to each other helps the relationship to live longer.
So, just stop nagging, pin-pointing, and showering infinite loop
of suggestions. This way, you would be respecting the relationship in
true sense, and would get the same in return from your partner.
#2. Divide and conquer
He can’t do it all and she can’t do it all; but together they can
build a castle. Being aware of one’s duties in the household and
completing them without any reminders can actually do wonders.
Dividing responsibilities and taking charge of different
department(s) of the house, plays an instrumental role in striking
harmony. It takes two to tango, so isn’t it better if both are dancing
to hit the perfect chord?
#3. Right decision at right times
Couples take impulsive decisions at times, like the wife abandoning
her job post-marriage, or husband choosing to tie the knot though
inclined to go for higher studies. And, most suicidal of all- starting a
family when not prepared for it.
Any wrongly calculated decisions can have negative
butterfly-effect on the happiness of your married life. So be sure of
your decisions, weigh all options, talk to experts if need be, and try
not to impose your decision on your partner. And once taken, own up to
your decision. No blame-gaming!
#4. Remain Romantic
Adding romance to your diet is not just healthy for your
relationship, but also for your body, mind and soul. Feeling young at
heart and staying connected with your partner are good enough reasons
for the love to be around always .
So all you men, call in sick occasionally at office and take her
on a surprise date. And ladies, surprise him at times when he comes home
tired in the evening, with a romantic candle-light dinner at home
followed by a wild time in bed. And needless to say, the rewards will
follow naturally.
#5. Realistic Expectation
Now that is the mantra of a successful marriage. Be reasonable,
realistic and rational with your expectations towards your spouse. Do
not kill yourself and other one just because your best friend’s or
sibling’s spouse does something special for their spouse.
No one is perfect yet everyone is, in their own way. So, value
what you have and avoid comparing your apples to someone else’s oranges.
So, the gap between the men and the women is not actually
as big as it is perceived to be. Try all that you can, such as
selective hearing, giving benefit of doubt or even turning a blind-eye
occasionally. And, just make the most of your relationship as well as
life. Every little effort made to abridge this gap will fill your
married life with love and happiness.
